Knowing How to Find Help

Seeking support in times of need and knowing how to accept help when it’s offered.

Happy family of parents, three children, and a grandfather

Sooner or later, every family needs help. Although asking isn’t always easy, recognizing your family’s needs and reaching out to others for support is a sign of strength. Advocating for your family helps you build self-confidence and persistence. Knowing how to accept help when it is offered can teach your kids courage and resourcefulness. Plus, strong families are better able to help others.

Knowing How to Find Help can mean…

Hands reaching out to accept a hot meal from a neighbor

Taking help when it’s offered

Looking up a directory of resources

Searching for the resources you need

Adults communicating with one another

Advocating for your family

Hear From Parents

Ask Yourself…

There are no right answers. Thinking about these questions can help you understand your family’s strengths.

Does feeling uncomfortable ever stop you from asking for help? Flip to Learn More
Asking for help can be really uncomfortable. It may be the person you are asking or what you are asking for. It may be that you were raised not to ask for help. But knowing how to tap into your network of personal and community resources is an important part of building family strength. Think about the thoughts, feelings and situations that can keep you from reaching out and then consider one thing that you can do to make a change. Back to Question
Do you feel confident advocating for your kids? Flip to Learn More
Being an advocate for your child’s needs—in places like their school, the doctor’s office or day care—can be difficult. Challenging someone who’s supposed to be an expert can mean stepping out of your comfort zone, especially if you feel like you don’t know what to ask for, find confrontation stressful or have past negative experiences weighing you down. Just remember, you know your child best. Try reaching out to others who can support you through the process, so that you can get your child’s needs met. Back to Question
Do you feel comfortable offering help to your friends and acquaintances? Flip to Learn More
It can be hard to know how to offer support. Often, saying something vague, like “Let me know what I can do,” doesn’t help. When they aren’t sure what you’re offering, people in need don’t know what or how much to ask of you. And you could end up doing something you’re not comfortable with. Next time, try to be specific. Offer a ride, a meal or babysitting. It’ll make giving and getting help easier for both of you. Back to Question
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Now that you understand the Five Strengths and why they are important for all families, you may want to explore more about how you can recognize and build them for your own family. Explore the ideas and exercises below, or go to the Next Steps page to find resources that can help guide you as you explore what to look for, where to learn more and what you can do to build each of the Five Strengths.